This Relationship Need To Break Out Of Its Rut
Dear Ask The Man: You and your partner are going somewhere fancy….so you put on an expensive dress, do your hair and make-up, and slip into some sexy stilettos. Now, let’s say, you approach your partner and ask, “How does this look?” and he says very apathetically “it looks okay”.
What would you say/do/feel in response?
Answer: You mean after you pour the beer he’s drinking on his head?
Seriously, what you should do is make sure you have his attention and then, in a firm yet controlled manner, explain to him that this is a very important night to you and that you spent hours getting ready for it. Make sure he’s paying attention to you as you say this, too.
If he can’t appreciate you, your effort, how you look and how important the night is to you then you should point out that this maybe it’s time you two took a long, hard look at things together. Sometimes, you have to drill such things into men, who are not always too sharp when it comes to knowing what’s important to a girl.
You didn’t mention how the rest of the night went, but it sure didn’t start out well from your perspective. It’s likely you spent most of the evening seething at your partner’s reaction to how you looked.
This relationship is obviously in a rut. You need to do something to either break out of this rut or get rid of the, well, rut.
Good luck and hopefully we’ll hear back from you on what happened with a comment on this post.
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