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The Nightlife Blogger: Sorry California Girls, Chivalry Is Dead In The Golden State

January 26, 2013 by kevinwilkerson 2 Comments

Men Need To Improve Manners When Opening Doors And Ordering Drinks For Women

Dating couple
Here’s cheers to long-lasting chivalry.




By Kevin Wilkerson, PubClub.com Nightlife Blogger

The bar area of the popular restaurant was crowded, as is always the case on an early Friday evening, when in walked a couple on a date.

Both were in their late 20s, the guy well dressed and the girl flat-out gorgeous.

They walked up to the corner of the bar and the guy quickly got the bartender’s attention. Then he did something that caused me to pause, to sit in stunned silence. He ordered a beer from the bartender and then, almost as if an afterthought, turned to his date and said, “and what do you want?”

Yet he wasn’t finished. His beer arrived before her drink and instead of waiting on her, he took a sip. Then a second sip.

What’s more, the girl seemed not to notice how improperly she had been treated.

Pull that stunt with a Southern girl and she’ll pour that drink in your face. Then walk out and leave you standing alone at the bar.

But not in California, where girls have been so accustomed to this un-gentlemenly behavior they just let it roll off the shoulder.  I’ll bet the guy didn’t even open the door for her when they walked into the place.

I still remember a scolding my Southern mother gave me as a teenager. We were getting into the vehicle when she grabbed me and said – quite sternly – “open the car door for your sister.” I protested, saying that it’s only my sister and I would do so for a girlfriend, but mom snapped back that “gentlemen open doors for ALL girls!”

Because of those words, I always open doors for girls. All doors, too, not just car doors. This is not always easy in California because sometimes I have to step in front of the girl – cutting her off in mid-stride – to do it.

This is apparently a problem in Australia, too. I was hanging with an Aussie gal in America and it took several days before she adapted to the concept. She was so used to going through doors first that once I grabbed her and pulled her back so I could get to the door before her. I wanted to train her that this is what men are supposed to do for girls.  “I’m just not used to that,” she said.

So I told her when she got back to Australia to stand in a doorway until a guy opened the door for her. So if you see a tall brunette standing in a doorway in Australia, you’ll know it’s her. And guys, go open that door for her!

It’s not just opening doors that my mother (and father, too) taught me. It’s other manners, as well. Girls always go first. When in a bar or restaurant, she orders before you. If there are no seats available, you stand up and offer yours to her. This applies whether you know her or not. And it has to become so automatic that you don’t think about it, you just do it.

I’m reminded of a flight I was on when, seated in first class, the flight attendant asked me what I wanted to drink. I told her to ask the girl next to me first, but the flight attendant kept asking me. Finally, I told the flight attendant that I was not ordering until she first took the girl’s order. Only then would I order myself.

I actually thought nothing of it, but the girl sure did because she turned to me and said, “it’s good to know chivalry isn’t dead.”

Unfortunately, it is in California.

Hopefully, though, it’s becoming trendy in Australia.



Filed Under: From The Bar Stool Tagged With: Chivalry, dating, Singles, The Bar Stool, The Nightlife Blogger

Comments

  1. Olive Oil says

    January 27, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    Kevbeaux, I completely agree! After living in L.A. for 6 years and now Tennessee for 8, I know exactly what you mean. My fiancee still opens every door for me, including the car. He always makes sure I’m taken care of before him. Didn’t take me too long to get used to this behavior. I guess that’s because I love it! Maybe L.A. guys could be shipped to the South for some training? 🙂

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    • pubclub says

      January 27, 2013 at 6:46 pm

      That’s a darned good idea! But the girls need some training, in Southern manners, too!

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