One of the tough things for men growing older – besides having shaky knees, hair growing in places it never did before and the hair turning from dark to light – is being single and going to bars that has younger people.
You get called “sir” a lot. You rarely catch the eyes of the girls. Too often, you even become invisible to them. There are things you can do to turn the tables a bit in your favor and then there are things guys in their 50s should never say in a singles bar.
This article is targeted to older guys trying to pick up younger girls but really, it can – and should be – applied when sitting next to anyone in a bar.
1.) Don’t Talk About How Much Better Things Were When You Were Young
If there’s one thing that will have people sitting on the next barstool turn their back to you or suddenly excuse themselves to the bathroom and never return – or relocate to a different area – it’s talking about how much better things were when you were young. People in their 20s and 30s don’t want to hear about it. Heck, you probably didn’t like hearing that from older people when you were in your 20s and 30s.
Live in the now, not in the past.
2.) Keep The Conversation Current (And Don’t Talk About Having Kids Or Your Ex Wife)
Don’t talk about things that “date” you, such as bands back in the day, TV shows, movies, etc. Keep the conversation current. NEVER talk about your having kids and especially an ex wife. That will end a conversation than a girl saying “my boyfriend is here.”
3.) Don’t Use Decades-Old References
Likewise, avoid references to older sitcoms (“Seinfield,” “Friends” and “Cheers,” for example), movies (those with John Travolta and early Tom Cruise as two examples) bands and anything else that will likely bore contemporary bar patrons.
4.) Don’t Talk Too Much
Take is easy on the length of conversations. Keep them short and ask what they like rather than always talking about what you like because they will keep them engaged with you. Some 50s guys will go on and on (and on and on) and nothing will clear out a barstool faster than continuous talking by one person.
5.) Act Like You Enjoy The Music
Basting rap, hip-hop/R&B, DJs with weird names, songs titled things like “Creepin’ ” and “Boy’s A Liar” may mean nothing to you, but they do to others around you, so you better at least pretend as if you like the music played in bars today.