First dates can make a lot of guys anxious because they set the tone for the entire relationship. As a result, choosing the location of the first date should be thought out in advance.
If you have been texting beforehand, be sure to pay attention to her likes and dislikes. If she has said she loves coffee and hates big crowds, take her out to a small, local coffee shop. Taking her out to a concert where there are thousands of other people would, in this case, not be ideal.
Listen to her and what she is saying and take cues from her. Not only will you look like an awesome potential boyfriend, but you will also show that you’ve been paying attention. And women love that.
The location of the first date varies on the woman. Typically, I suggest going somewhere quiet where the two of you can talk. The first date is about making a connection and deciding if you want to go on date #2. If it’s too loud or you can’t focus on each other, you miss out on the opportunity to get to know each other.
Therefore, quiet places such as small but unique coffee shops, taking her out on a picnic, taking her to a museum, or meeting up at a bookstore, are simple but good ideas.
Going to these places allows for plenty of time to talk and get to know each other, without the added pressure of a white-tablecloth dining experience.
Keep it simple, easy, and fun. It also doesn’t have to break the bank. First dates are all about finding out if you want to see each other again. It’s not about impressing her with extravagances. If you get nervous, just think about that.
How To Project Confidence
Women typically say that confidence is sexy. However, most guys get nervous on first dates (and that’s okay!). It can feel as stressful as an important job interview.
Whether you need dating tips for shy guys or you’re an extrovert and normally project confidence, dating can sometimes make confidence falter. You might worry about rejection. But just remember, if she doesn’t KNOW you yet, she can’t reject YOU. Here are some tips to help your first-date confidence.
You might think, “Does she like me?” and “How am I doing?” the entire time. However, in order to project confidence, all it takes is a paradigm shift. Instead of worrying if YOU are good enough for her, try to consider if she fits YOUR criteria for a girlfriend.
Before the first date, write down the qualities you want in a girlfriend. However, do not grill her with big questions on your first date. Questions about her likes and dislikes are good but you’re just seeing if your chemistry and personalities work together before diving into the big questions. The first date should be flirty and fun. You can go into the deeper stuff on dates #2 and #3.
A great way to bolster confidence before a first date is to write down a list of 25 things that YOU bring into a potential relationship. Maybe you are great with money, or you can speak another language, or you can cook well. It doesn’t matter how big or how small. But write down all 25 things.
By writing down all of the things you are bringing into a potential relationship, you up your confidence and level of attraction to others. Also, by switching your mental focus to considering if she is the kind of woman you want, rather than if you are good enough for her, you will be able to project confidence and get the woman you deserve.
Fun Questions to Ask on a First Date
First dates should be fun. They are an opportunity to get to know your date better, as well as to see if there is chemistry. One way to do this is to ask fun questions on a first date. Furthermore, it will help keep the conversation flow smoothly and lower the first-date jitters. In addition, it makes you look charming and fun too!
Also, the questions you ask should be open-ended so that she can’t just answer with a “yes” or “no.” By asking open-ended questions, you can get to know each other better and show her what a great listener you are by responding to what she says.
A small piece of advice when you are asking questions: really listen to what she’s saying. Don’t be thinking of the next question when you’re talking or you won’t be able to respond to her and the conversation will turn one-sided. Play off of what she says. This will help you better connect.
Here is a list of 15 fun questions to ask on a first date.
- What is your favorite thing to do on weekends?
- If you had an unlimited budget and time, where would you like to travel?
- Would you rather… This game is fun, easy, and adds back and forth conversation.
- What are some of your favorite hobbies?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- What are you obsessed with right now?
- Do you like staying in or going out?
- Do you like to plan things, or are you more spontaneous?
- What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
- What gift would make you fall in love instantly?
- What excites you?
- What is something about you that not many people know?
- If you never had to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
- What does a typical day like for you?
- What is the best and worst job you ever had?
These questions are great because they allow you to get to know her better in a fun, stress-free way. The important thing to remember is to listen carefully to what she has to say and respond appropriately. It shouldn’t feel like she is in a job interview. Keep it upbeat, fun, and laugh together wherever possible.
It also helps you get to know her better as a person. Is she more social or more introverted? What kinds of things does she like? Does she have similar hobbies or interests as you? What do her days typically look like, and would that fit in with your schedule? All of these things help you decide if you want date #2. If there is chemistry, but you aren’t sure, ask for that second date.
Women love men that show confidence and a genuine interest in them. So with these tips, you can find the right place to take her on a date, project confidence, and keep the conversation fun and flowing easily. If you need more help finding your dream girl, it doesn’t hurt to set up sessions with a dating coach.
Just remember, you’ve got this!